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@TheLovelyLocs & @BzTaughtMe

Couldn't keep my eyes open for crap! lol

"The giving of love is an education in itself."

- Eleanor Roosevelt

The Handbook to a Successful Relationship... Pt. 2

Finally the long wait has ended I’m now able to share with you my opinion about how to have a “successful relationship”. I recently wrote Pt. 1 of the Handbook listing nine characteristics of a “successful relationship”.

“There's compromising, patience, faithfulness, respect, forgiveness, togetherness, and trust which also comes with honesty and COMMUNICATION.”

Here are some questions that will be answered:
1) What is the definition?
2) Why is it important in a “successful relationship”?
3) What are some examples of it in a “successful relationship”?
4) How is it displayed correctly?

Before I begin, I will say this. My boyfriend and I do not have the equivalent of a “PERFECT RELATIONSHIP” however WE are working towards a “successful relationship”, like many other couples out there. From observation of many couples and marriages and divorces I’ve noticed certain characteristics; “rules”. We know that in today’s society a lot of situations are changing. People aren’t exactly the typical HUSBAND and WIFE or GIRLFRIEND and BOYFRIEND anymore. Things have changed and evolved into something much more. According DivorceRate.org, in the United States alone:

• 41% of first marriages end in divorce
• 60% of second marriages end in divorce
• 73% of third marriages end in divorce

Let’s start with COMMUNICATION, since that is my favorite. COMMUNICATION is defined as “an ongoing dynamic process of sharing meaning. Sharing both our ideas and feelings w/out forsaking for the other one.” According to Thomas E. Harris and Mark D. Nelson, authors of Applied Organizational Communication, communication is a very vital part of the human race. Communication is a process where there is a mutual assignment of meaning, simultaneous responses by all persons in the transaction, ongoing giving and receiving of multiple messages, circularity, and numerous channels of communication. Communication is what keeps this world going. Whether it may be nonverbal or verbal communication, it plays a major part in Society.

The verbal communication source has four roles:

1. to determine the meaning of what is to be communicated
2. to encode the meaning into a message
3. to send the message
4. to react to a listener's response to the message

Nonverbal:

a. Kinesics is body movement and body posture as well as facial expressions or gestures.
b. Paralanguage is considered to be the vocal quality/pitch, loudness, and tempo: sometimes also including facial expressions and gestures.
c. Sex roles- the biological prescriptions about what males and females should do with their bodies.
d. Gender Roles refer to the ways women and men are socially and culturally assigned feminine and masculine behaviors.

People may not understand how important communication in a “successful relationship” is, or any relationship for that matter. The thing that makes communication between significant others so important is that a miscommunication can alter so many things.

To Be Continued….

More to come....

After I finish "The Handbook to a Successful Relationship... Pt. 2" I'm going to write a blog on @Endometriosis "Is Endometriosis the End?"

Quote/History Of The Day!!

I think that I'll start doing my Daily Quotes.... It seems like that'll be something that will not only help me get through the day but it might just help someone else. And it's always good to help out another person. Not only will I just do "Quote of The Day" but I'll also share a description about the person who shared their own thoughts with the world.

"Quote of The Day":
"I believe in me more than anything in this world"
- Wilma Rudolph

"History of The Day"
Wilma Glodean Rudolph
June 23, 1940 - November 12, 1994
An American Athlete.

1. She became a track star, going to her first Olympic Games in 1956 at age 16. She won a bronze medal in the 4x4 relay.
2. On September 7th, 1960, in Rome, she became the first American woman to win three gold medals in the Olympics.
3. In the year 1997, the Governor proclaimed June 23 a Wilma Rudolph Day in Tennessee.

With that shared, it is off to bed for me. I hope that you learned or gained something from this blog. Have a Great Morning. and GOODNIGHT!

Biography from "Women In History"
Biography from "Wilma Rudolph"

All Done = D

The Handbook to a Successful Relationship...

I swear relationships are so hard sometimes. I just don't understand what goes through the significant others head at times. But I'm sure that they can say the same thing about me too. If I only could read your mind, and even then I'm sure relationships would be hard STILL. But hey, like they say: "The good always out weighs the BAD". And that's the truth. I have the best days with my significant other. That's how it should be at times.

I think there are a couple of things that need to happen to make a relationship a "successful relationship". There's compromising, patience, faithfulness, respect, forgiveness, togetherness, and trust which also comes with honesty and COMMUNICATION (notice I bolded the word, it's my favorite if you didn't already know; it's what I do). I'm not saying we've mastered all of these or that our relationship is PERFECT, but I think we're alright.. lol = )

So soon I'll be writing about these characteristics or qualities of a successful relationship and my opinion on what they should be and what they sometimes end up being.....

So stay tuned. = )

Monogamy is Unnatural for Men (The Real Reason Why Men Cheat)

I need opinions!!! What do you think about this? The REAL reason why men cheat...

Speech....

Speech is my hammer, bang the world into shape
Now let it fall...

Wizzzy.... ♥

KING Sunday @ The Reserve

MLKing Sunday.. 1.16.11

Ladies and Gentlemen be sure to come out on Sunday 1.16.11 to help celebrate the life and the revolutionary changes that Martin Luther King, Jr. led in making this country a more peaceful and less segregated place that it is today.

As you all may know MLK is a member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc...
MLK was indeed a KING.

Here are the: What's, Who's, When's & Where's....

Everyone Free before 11:00pm
ALPHAS - 5$ ALL NIGHT
Dress Code - Dress to impress.. (No white or black tees)
Reserve Lounge:
1424 L ST. NW Washington, DC
Reserve Drinks Specials
Valet Parking Available

Hope to see you and your friends there!!!!

For more information about this upcoming Sunday's event or future events you can follow them on their twitter page at Everlasting Evolution also you check them out of facebook at Everlasting Evolution.

"Enhance Your Entertainment Experience with Everlasting Evolution in Conjunction with Team Doeboy & Brovahood Ent!"

Once a Girl Scout...

...Once a Girl Scout Always a Girl Scout.


For some reason I am so excited to help out with Girl Scouts. The way I see it is, if you aren't doing anything else with your time then you might as well volunteer. Why not? Sitting around literally doing nothing can't be fun at all. With so much time on my hands from school being over (check out next blog for that) I'm able and liable to get into and involved in everything. Why not let it be positive. I need something to do with my time, it can't just sit around. Yes reading is fundamental, but that gets really old once you've read all the books on your book shelf. Plus its only right to get up and do something and go somewhere, at least once in a while.

I would put up a picture, but I don't even have a picture of me in girl scouts it's been so long ago.